| Anger can destroy your life. It can ruin your | | | | and relaxed throughout the day. There are many |
| relationship with your spouse, your children, your | | | | relaxation techniques you can use to stay calm and |
| friends, and your co-workers. | | | | have positive 'down time'. Some of the more popular |
| The problem is that every day things happen to us | | | | activities are yoga, deep breathing exercises, |
| that bring out our anger. So it's critical that we learn | | | | meditation, and so on. |
| to keep our temper under control. We need to do | | | | 5. Laugh: |
| this for ourselves, and we need to do this so that | | | | Try to look at what is happening as if it were |
| our children can learn from our example. | | | | happening to someone else. Many times if you look |
| Here are seven simple straight forward techniques | | | | at the difficult situations you are experiencing as an |
| you can use that will keep anger under control. | | | | outsider would, what is happening will seem quite |
| 1. Get away from the location: | | | | ludicrous. You can infuse humor in difficult situations |
| Walk away. When you are in a upsetting or | | | | and laugh at them rather than get offended or angry. |
| frustrating situation and you feel anger is coming on, | | | | 6. Judge favorably: |
| just walk away. Excuse yourself, go to the | | | | Most people who do things that anger you are not |
| bathroom, do what ever you can do to leave the | | | | doing them maliciously. Usually if the person knew he |
| situation. Disengage. The great advantage of walking | | | | was doing something to bother you, he wouldn't do it |
| away is that even if you become angry, nothing will | | | | at all. The problem is that none of us weigh out how |
| happen. You are by yourself, so no one will know | | | | our actions effect others. What seems to you as a |
| that you are upset. You won't be able to say | | | | person who is inconsiderate and uncaring is probably |
| anything or do anything that you are going to regret | | | | someone who is just unaware that what he is doing |
| later. If you want to control your anger and limit the | | | | is bothering you. Since in most cases the person who |
| damage that it can do, walking away is a great first | | | | is doing something to you really means no offense, |
| step. | | | | there is no reason for you to take offense. |
| 2. Diffuse your anger: | | | | You should view most actions that bother or offend |
| One of the best ways to diffuse your anger is to | | | | you as an oversight rather than a direct attack. If |
| get physical. That does not mean hit your kids, which | | | | you do that, you will almost always be correct. |
| is one of the destructive ways some parents diffuse | | | | 7. Be silent: |
| their anger. What I mean is to engage in some form | | | | Words said in anger can cause a great deal of harm. |
| of vigorous physical activity. Go for a walk, a run, lift | | | | What you say may be something you truly feel or |
| weights, or do something else physical that will | | | | may be something that you are just saying to hurt |
| diffuse your emotions and get your mind off the | | | | your attacker. Either way, it will usually be something |
| problem. This will help you cool down. It will also give | | | | that is not very palatable. Be careful of the words |
| you some of the best work outs that you will ever | | | | that come out of your mouth when you are angry. |
| have. | | | | When you calm down you will probably have to eat |
| 3. Get regular exercise: | | | | them. |
| This is a corollary to what we just mentioned. | | | | Bonus Technique: Take a cosmic perspective: |
| Strenuous exercise is a great technique to manage | | | | There are some very serious issues in the world. |
| your anger and increase you tolerance threshold. | | | | Global warming, nuclear waste, genocide, world |
| Getting regular vigorous exercise has a lot of | | | | hunger, etc. These are things that can have |
| advantages. You will feel younger and healthier. You | | | | ramifications for centuries. Compare these to |
| will look better. You will also be able to dissipate the | | | | whatever happened that is making you angry. In ten |
| effects of the daily nagging frustrations that tend to | | | | years from now, is what you are facing right now |
| add up over the course of the day. These minor | | | | going to make any difference to anybody? If not, |
| irritations tend to build up and eat away at you until | | | | then just let it go. There are a lot of bigger problems |
| even a small incident can get you angry. By just | | | | to worry about. |
| setting up a regular exercise routine, you will find that | | | | You should try to use some or all of these anger |
| things will not bother you quite as much and you will | | | | management techniques and tips and teach them to |
| be much less prone to anger. | | | | your children. They will help you and your family |
| 4. Keep calm: | | | | members control your anger and prevent you from |
| You can control anger if you find a way to stay calm | | | | damaging your relationships. |